WANT SOLUTION?
THERE’S ALWAYS ONE!

Introduction

HOW TO READ THIS BOOK

You might be wondering what I am about to share with you in this chapter, because obviously we read like we were taught to read in school. Sure thing! That’s the way to do it.

But what’s the way to BE the person who would be able to DO it in a way that gets you the most out of this book? Have you thought of it in that way? There’s not just one, but many resourceful ways of being that I can suggest to you. It’s like wearing a particular hat that transports you to a certain desirable frame of mind, just right for that moment!

So I thought of spoiling you with choices! I’ve got at least 10 imaginary hats to offer here! You can mix and match and wear them in any order you like! As long as you wear one, you’ll love the result you’ll attract in your life. And gradually you’ll come to realise that you might not need to depend on any imaginary hat at all, for you would have retained the magical powers those hats had to offer, deep inside your heart and right between your ears. I am eager to hear your experience that follows!

Come winter or monsoon and we make sure to equip ourselves with jackets and raincoats before we step out of our homes. But what do we do when we visit a friend’s place or get back home? We leave the coats on the coat rack! Because we know we’re warm enough indoors and it’s safe for our body to get rid of the jackets now.

I’d invite you to try on the same analogy while reading this book! This book is not out to harm you and only intends to create a safe and warm learning environment for you. And even though some ideas may seem unfamiliar to you in the beginning, as you immerse yourself deeper, you’ll find yourself making best friends with some of them!

All you have to do is leave your existing learnings on the shelf, while creating fresh space for some new ones you’re about to absorb from this book. No, I’m not literally asking you to forget all your intelligence! It’s just a pretend game we’re playing (bring out your inner child if needed!) so you can be accommodative of the ideas presented in this book, while finding the right filing space for them in your library of intelligence acquired so far! Cool? Cool!

LET’S GET STARTED

"It’s always best to start at the beginning. And all you do is follow the Yellow Brick Road. "

-Glinda, the Good Witch (Wizard of Oz)

When I heard Glinda suggest this to Dorothy, I suddenly had my antennae up! I was asking myself, ‘Wasn’t it obvious to start at the beginning? Then why did she even have to say it?’ I rewound the DVD and had a second go at it. And then I thought to myself, the seriousness with which she said it is probably because despite this being life’s most basic and simple principle to follow, it is still largely and conveniently ignored in the many complex endeavours of the modern world to complicate life!

What I also perceived Glinda to be saying is that the path is all laid out. The models are ready, and all we have to do is replicate them in our own lives. Don’t reinvent the wheel. Just ride in a Ferrari! Isn’t that easy? It sure is.

And that’s what has also prompted me to write my book. It was one of my dreams and all I had to do was connect with people who had done it earlier, adopt their system, follow it and the result is this book in your hands!

I call this chapter ‘Let’s Get Started’ just in case you’ve not taken any action yet. The book has actually begun a couple of chapters back!

Are you still waiting for the main content to arrive? Or are you completely digging into the message? Honestly, there’s so much that has been shared already and enough strategies to keep you going with a new attitude to explore daily for at least a fortnight. The power is now in your hands. The power is in the implementation, not in the information!

However, if you’re the one that wants more, I definitely have a whole buffet to serve to you. There’s a whole variety of flavours and textures, each one stimulating your senses in a different way and helping you connect deeply with your own self, like never before. BUT

DO YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES?

‘A change in behaviour begins with a change in the heart.’

- Unknown

Welcome to this chapter where we’re going to shed off some old scaly skin and grow some fresh new wings!

And the world would be such a less beautiful place. Wouldn’t it?

I want to share with you one of my stories about how I experienced and embraced change. It was my coaching intake weekend at The Coaching Institute, Melbourne and our super-awesome teacher and mentor was sharing with us methodologies to leverage our time. He told the group that anyone and every one of us could write our own book and provide that as a helpful resource to our clients rather than teaching and explaining to each and every one of them the thinking models individually.

At that moment, I felt really challenged and confronted and some emotions surfaced. It was a difficult thing to believe; however, I was secretly hoping that what he said was true about anyone being able to write their own book. The intake weekend over, I slowly and steadily started immersing myself in building my business. I got engrossed in coaching clients and my business was picking up well, when I suddenly started experiencing that exhaustion of having to repeat more or less the same philosophies and thinking models for different clients which was taking up a lot of my one-on-one time. After all, the human brain works in standard universal patterns!

I thought it was now time I wrote out that book which Joe Pane was referring to, nearly a year ago. I set myself a goal to write a book before 2015 ends and started developing some writing muscle. So I hopped onto a free writing challenge that I came across on the internet, where you practise writing 500 words daily, consistently for a period of 30 days.

WHAT’S YOUR BS? BULL-SHIT OR BELIEF SYSTEMS?

‘Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re always right!’

- Henry Ford

I’m glad to find you on this page because I choose to make it mean that you’re really curious and committed. And these two characteristics put together are the beginning of massive growth in life.

But for you to bring lasting positive change in your life, it’s extremely important that you identify and explore your belief systems and also understand how they work. After all, all change begins with awareness!

You need to identify your belief systems, all the more so if you’ve constantly been trying to make changes in your life but instead find yourself ending up with the same type of trends and results in terms of the people who you attract and hang around with, your friends, your intimate relationships, jobs or career opportunities, your business or even your health. It’s your belief systems that really ‘run the show’ of your life.

So you might be wondering, how exactly are these belief systems formed and how do they really control my life?

Well, belief systems start forming right from the moment we are born and the process goes on predominantly up until the time we’re about seven or eight years old. No, the process doesn’t stop, but by that age, we have mostly formed our basic premise of making most decisions, or we could say our Primary Beliefs are formed. And then the results of our decisions start forming our Secondary Beliefs, as if it was a fixed mathematical formula which will be true every other time in life.